The Focus of the Raising Lions Method:
Cognitive Road Maps, Identity, Self-Control.
Research shows that children are constantly collecting data from, and drawing conclusions about their interactions. The mental models they form as a result of their observations can be understood as "Cognitive Road Maps."
But the stated rules about right and wrong and the explanations that come with these rules are not how most children make their cognitive maps. As a result, many conventional attempts at curbing unruly behavior can backfire. Cognitive Road Maps aren't built from words (information) so much as they are built from observed results (actions).
The Raising Lions Method teaches you what kinds of cognitive maps children are actually forming. And then teaches you how to draw maps to motivate the behaviors you want to see in your children.
How a child perceives themselves in relation to parents and those around them is a primary motivation at the root of behavior.
But these identities can be positive or negative depending on the situation. Children who feel more powerful or important than adults are plagued by anxiety that drives them to act out, defy and manipulate others. In school and social situations, a child who identifies at "Luke Skywalker" will behave very differently than a child who identifies at "Darth Vader" in that situation.
Develop relationships that feed the positive identity and motivate the positive behaviors you want to see with the Raising Lions Method.
Self-Control and Attention Span
Over the last 30 years, more and more children have struggled with self-control, emotional regulation, and attention problems.
But attention and impulse control problems are not simply a function of pre-existing neurology. Willful and hard to control children successfully avoid doing those things that require extended attention and self-control, and as a result, they don't develop these abilities at the rate they should.
Joe Newman teaches how to get children to do the things they are avoiding, reluctant, or refusing to do. In this way children gradually improve their abilities of self-control and attention.
Theories are fine, but what should I DO?
Rather than simply giving parents high-minded ideals and philosophies, Joe Newman gives parents and teachers clear actions and language to use to shift the dynamic with their children.
Like a script for actors, Joe writes individual action plans, then coaches and rehearses with clients to use these plans effectively. These individualized scripts allow parents and children to experience a new way of being with each other.
As these experiences accumulate, the new relationship takes hold, and the new way of being becomes intuitive, common sense, and natural.